What I want for Mother's Day.

I've been thinking . . .

People think I'm an expert at Mother's Day because I'm a midwife.

And there's no question that I get to see indescribable power from mothers as they give birth before my eyes, on a regular basis. I know this is the unspeakable strength from whence I came since the beginning of time.

But in the blink of an eye, my mind flashes to so many of the mothers that have imprinted my memory this year.
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​I think of the client who has been pregnant four times, three of them with me at her side. She has had three losses to trisomies - one of them in the second trimester, IUI, IVF, and one gorgeous, sweet healthy baby after what easily was one of the most rewarding days of my career, and possibly, my life. Hers, too.

Then I think of the client I had this year who wept through so many of our prenatal meetings and parts of her labor, as she pined for her own mother. They are estranged. She doesn't know what to do and how to heal. And now, she is a mother to a baby she loves beyond any bounds, as she cannot imagine ever turning her back on him, as has been done to her. She won’t.

And now I'm reminded of the client who has had two miscarriages in a row. She is only 30 and cannot stop thinking about these two. She is coming back to have her IUD placed again, for now.

And the families where there are two moms . . . every midwife I know loves to help families where there are two moms because . . . I mean what could be better than two moms? Moms are the best thing ever and if you're a midwife and you love women, you love families with two moms. I am no exception and my midwife heart grows double.

Mother's day is rich for me.

I asked Josh for tickets to Bruce Springsteen on Broadway. He said, "I feel like you just asked me to buy you an island. I could probably get you an island!" 

I'll settle for brunch.

I see you. I see you. Happy Mother's Day.

​Get ready for a women's health revolution.

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